Wednesday, May 15, 2013

Striving for Perfection

I was listening to a radio program the other day from Focus on the Family about how a lot of moms strive for perfection in their lives, so I thought I'd touch on this subject here.

First off, there are a lot of mom blogs out there that can make it look like these moms have it all together. Well I apologize in advance if this blog will ever make me look like I have it all together, because the truth is, I don't. What we choose to write about online is usually the nice stuff in our lives, not the stuff that we struggle with. So keep that in mind when you read any mom blog. I think that often we like to share tips on how to make life easier and what not, but these are tips that we either hope to follow ourselves, or that we have developed overtime during times of struggle.

One reason we strive for perfection (which is unattainable by the way ;-) ) is that we compare ourselves with other moms we see who seem to have it all together. I think when we believe this, the case might be that certain moms don't struggle with the same things we do. For example, if you see a mother speaking very softly to her child who has just done something wrong, you might think that she is the perfect mom because you struggle in the area of losing patience with your kids and yelling. Well, I am sure that mom has other kinds of struggles that perhaps you don't have. Maybe her house is a total disaster! And maybe yours is too. Mine definitely feels that way a lot of the time ;-) We all have our imperfections so we should stop comparing ourselves to other moms and actually start being more open and vulnerable about our struggles. Maybe then we could support each other during those difficult times and even accept advice where needed from moms who have worked through certain areas that we still struggle with.

Another reason that we strive for perfection might be because of this idea that has been portrayed through media of the "supermom". The mother who has it all! She works outside the home, has a perfectly clean house, cooks fantastic meals, has well behaved kids, etc. Reality check: we can't have it all. We were not made to be perfect. That's why we need Jesus, right? If perfection was attainable, He wouldn't have needed to die on the cross. He took our place. We need to stop beating ourselves down and lean on Him. Trust Him with your lives. Trust Him with your children.

1 comment:

Mama S said...

Very good post, yes the comparing game is never good for anyone. We all have our forthcoming!